I Have To
Many of my clients spend a considerable amount of time attending meetings daily. When do they work? – before or after regular work time; therefore, the workday gets longer and more exhausting each day until a recharge over the weekend.
It feels like a hopeless cycle!
How to get out of it? We choose!
One client told me – “I skipped all of the unimportant meetings, and the meetings I have to attend still take most of my day.”
The “have to” mindset will lead to burnout. If we stick with a “have to” mindset, we are not free to choose fully.
“Have to” disguises many of our narratives, such as
“If I don’t do that, I am not responsible.”
“If I don’t do that, I let people done.”
“If I don’t do that, they might not reach out to me again.”
Some narratives are from a self-critical mind, some from longing for external recognition, some from fear, and most of them are buried deeply in the subconscious mind from previous challenges in life.
As a coach, I support them to discover how they make sense of “have to” as the first step.