In our development; there are two ways to grow; one is a direct impact of an experience on us and the other is we adapt to that direct impact ~ Dan Siegal
I believe that resilience can be grown through secure relationships; i.e. creating a direct and positive impact of an experience on others
A secure relationship is usually composed of 4 Ss.
- Being seen
- Being soothed
- Being safe
- Being secure
Are you a leader who wants to build a resilient team?
Here are some tips to build secure relationships with your team members based on the 4Ss:
– See them for who they are and listen to them deeply so they feel seen, heard, trusted, and connected authentically.
– Support them move from distress to equilibrium and feel “I am going to be OK”
– Ensure them you have their back so they feel safe to speak up
– Allow them to make mistakes and know relationships and communications can be repaired
Any particular work you want to develop for your leadership?
Any thoughts or experiences to share? I am always ready to learn from you!